Odd Behavior

What is it with us as human beings that makes us react in the strangest ways? What is it that makes us get upset at others when the blame lies within ourselves. We like to think that we are perfect, yet some of us seem to blame others when the fault is clearly ours. Why is that. Don't know what I'm talking about. Let's take a look at some common examples.

Let's say that you are the type of person that has to have everything perfect. Your car is always clean. Your house is always spotless. You keep your grass cut, even if you have to cut it several times a week to keep up that standard. Everything to you has to be just perfect. You dread having a piece of paper fall on the floor. If your this type of person, everything is kept in tip top shape. When people come over to your house Your more than happy to invite them in, drink a cup of tea or whatever. You may not think about it but your really proud of the way that you keep your house. Your happier when people come and visit you.

Now if you reverse that, you'll find that there is a very different type of you that comes out. Let's say that you were living like a pig. While you may feel completely comfortable in that situation, what happens to your mood when others come and visit you without prior warning. It's funny how most people get downright mad that they are there. They start saying things to the other person that might make the other person upset, like, "I wish that you had called before coming over." What's really going on is that you don't want that other person coming in your house to see just exactly how you really live. You get upset that they would even dare come over without calling. Even though deep down inside, you know that it's your fault you seem to put the blame on the other person. It's like driving in a car. You cut someone off of the road even though you know that they are there. When they honk the heck out of their horn at you, you get ticked at them because all of the sudden it becomes their fault. Even though you know for a fact that it's your fault you find reasons to blame the other person.

Why is that? Why is it that we treat each other poorly when we know that the actual blame lies within ourselves. What is inside of us that makes us react in the ways that we do and what in the world is it going to take for us to change?